I had a great experience at T46 in SF. I'm a guy in my late 30's who didn't want to date someone from work, but didn't like "picking up" women at bars or bowling alleys. So, I needed a service to introduce me to relationship-minded, successful women.
After about a dozen dinners (times 3 women per dinner) I had met over 30 prospective partners who shared some of my interests, and understood that making a relationship work requires some investment. I never would have met even one of them without T46. They were a good cross section of women. Some were knock-outs, others had a few extra pounds. Most dressed very well.
I've been dating someone I met through T46 for 6 months now, and it's the best relationship I've ever been in. They do what they promise, so claims of "scam" are just inflammatory.
I think it's important to keep in mind that all they can do is introduce people. They can't manufacture chemistry. If you're cynical, self-absorbed, materialistic or shallow then people are turned off by that, no surprise there.
The format of 3 men and 3 women having dinner works very well. If you don't click with someone, then you aren't marooned alone with them for the entire meal, you just turn to your left or right. Also, some of the dinners where I was not interested in dating any of the women still provided a very enjoyable evening of conversation with smart, sharp people.
The other aspects of the service are one-on-one matchmaking and events. I went on 3 one-on-one dates, and there wasn't any chemistry, but on paper the women were exactly what I was looking for. I suspect that's what match dot com would be like, although I've never used any other service. The events are open for everyone, so by definition, there's no explicit matching of any criteria, and I didn't find them very useful from a dating point of view.
Bottom line: They delivered what they promised. And I think the more you put into it, the more you'll get out of it.
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