I’ve had problems with anger issues since I was a teenager. I always felt like someone was doing me wrong and I wanted justice; that made me frustrated a lot of the time. I thought the yelling was just venting and that it was good for me. I had this mentality that everyone was out to get me and I ran my life in the offense. My attitude was affecting everyone in my life. I was wearing my business partner down, my girlfriend was put in uncomfortable situations because of my emotions, and with family, I would get in arguments and had basically dismissed them altogether. I started to have health problems because of stress, which was a real sign to me that things weren’t working out.
I’ve tried reading things online and trying to figure things out on my own. Everything made sense, but I didn’t have a plan. I realized what was wrong, but I didn’t have a way to fix it. Sometimes I got massages when I was angry with the world, but it only worked for an hour or so until I got back to work.
I heard about A New Day Hypnosis through a friend who had come to see Laura. I thought it was a good idea because my mother used hypnosis and it absolutely worked for her. I decided to call because I wanted to improve my relationship with my girlfriend and be the better person that she needed me to be.
I initially thought it was going to be very dry and boring, but it’s comfortable to open up and talk about things with Laura. When I started listening to my sessions, I became more aware of what I was doing and the impact that my actions were having on a variety of different things. I started realizing where the reactions were coming from. Even though I knew what the problem was, it was eye-opening to understand it and associate it with the way that I reacted to things in my life.
I’m less reactive and calmer now. I don’t have the physical reactions anymore and I’m not worn out by stress, so I have more energy. I don’t feel like I have to be vocal and angry when I share my feelings with people anymore. When things happen, I remember what we talked about and I work to change my behaviors. It’s been easier for me to understand what I am doing and where it all comes from.
I feel more in control now and less stressed and tense. I think about what I’m doing and I feel more confident and have lots of tools, which make me more equipped to deal with things in a more rational way. My business partner has said that he’s noticed a big change in me and my girlfriend has commented on the difference in the way that I deal with things. I know that I don’t need to throw a fire on problems and light them up. I’m putting the gas and matches away and that makes my life a lot easier.
The biggest benefit for me has been the tools that I’ve learned and the ability to put things together. The way that Laura communicates with me is effective and casual, so I can relate to her. When I make excuses for myself, Laura calls them out. I would recommend A New Day Hypnosis to anyone with anger management issues because it has helped me. I feel confident that I understand and have awareness about what is going on. The tools are helping me to be less reactive and more calm in general. I focus more on me and I’m learning to take responsibility for my actions instead of worrying about everyone else’s issues.
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