EROS is unique to SF, not so much a bath house or spa, but a playspace for men with elements of the baths, spas and community center. latex, lube, towels and lots of horizontal spaces makes it more user friendly, as well as comfy leather couches in the lounge/art gallery.
Some lounge events and classrooms events are open to all genders, but the staff are all guys.
Pros: towels, supplies, steam
Cons: can't control expectations or attitudes of course
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