"My name is Douglas J. Van der Heide, M.D. I am a psychoanalyst and psychiatrist; my office is located on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. Deep within each of us exists a hidden, albeit compromised, sense of who we wished to be; family issues, trauma, separation and loss early in life interfere and confound that vision. The capacity to embrace ourselves, enabling us to embrace those who love us, is the best way to ensure a life unfettered by anxiety and despair. This seemingly simple accomplishment allows us to live in the sun, to tolerate and even grow from the inevitable joy and pain, union and loss which accompany every life and which ironically give it meaning."